I asked my husband to pick up a package of Depends for Sarah when he was at the store and he gave me this horrified look. I told him, “Look, no one is going to think they are for you! How do you think I feel carrying the economy size package of ‘Depends for Women’ around the store?”
The smile on David’s face showed me I got him on that one and he agreed to pick up the package. Wise man!
It reminded me of the time a few weeks prior that I was at the store gathering food for our ‘Pig Out Day.’ We have ‘Pig Out Day’ for major sporting events, like Bowl games or the Super bowl. I buy a variety of appetizers and snacks and just set them out on the kitchen island on the day of the game(s). It is a free-for-all day and the kids say ‘Pig Out Day’ is one of their favorite family traditions. Some families have rich and beautiful traditions, such as being married with a Bible that has been in the family for five generations or each Thanksgiving eating a pie that was great grandma’s recipe; for us it is a couple bags of chips and a deli tray. To each their own!
I was in the checkout lane at the grocery store and the man behind me in line watched me as I put shrimp, meat and cheese trays on the conveyor belt. He made a comment that I must be having a party. I smiled and nodded. He saw the veggie and fruit trays and bags of chips and he joked about coming over to my house to eat. I explained to him ‘Pig Out Day’, but was trying to keep the small talk to a minimum because I knew what I had hidden in my cart. I was embarrassed, but it got to the point that I had no choice. He continued to make comments on the items in my grocery cart, until that is….I took a deep breath and with two hands pulled out the economy sized package of Depends for Women with a huge sticker on the package announcing “Now available in Soft Peach!” color. He looked at the package, looked at me, and then turned around and didn’t speak to me for the rest of the transaction. Maybe I should have pulled the package out sooner! I felt like pointing to the package of Depends and saying to him, “Why miss a moment of the game?”
Ahh…having an autistic child can really humble you!
It’s humbling. It’s embarrassing. I had no problem buying diapers or pull-ups because no one would think they are for me. Yet, now I feel like saying loudly as I carry the enormous package of Depends throughout the store, “These are for my autistic daughter.” or “My daughter really loves these in this new soft peach color!” I look around to see if I recognize anyone because I am sure this will be the one time I run into someone I haven’t seen in years. It is a pride issue. I care more about what others might think. So what? There are worst things in the world and tougher battles that people are facing than incontinence issues.
I Peter 5:5, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
Pride is an inward focus of making sure to promote oneself while a humble spirit is an outward focus of servitude. When you are humble you are broken down, all ego is laid to rest. You are open and willing to serve and maybe that is why the Lord gives grace to humble. You are finally ready to receive His grace. In my pride, I am too rigid and stiff necked, but once I am humbled there is softness in my soul and a pouring out of oneself to be able to be filled with His grace instead. Grace to do the embarrassing, grace to do the uncomfortable, grace to go beyond myself and be stretched more than I thought possible, but do out of love. Grace means unmerited favor. God gives us unmerited favor, HIS unmerited favor to do the difficult and challenging things we have placed in our lives right now. He knows that on our own we can’t, so He equips us with His grace to firm up our feeble legs and steady our steps to do what He has called us to do.
God’s grace! I’ll take that in the economy size any day!
13 thoughts on “Economy Size Grace”
Awesome and humbling at the same time. Thank you for sharing this.
It sounds as though you have your hands full…have you thought about ordering online? Amazon has great prices sometimes on items like that. I used to order diapers through the Amazon Mom program. Make at least that one thing a little easier on yourself. Hugs mama!
Thank you, Andrea, for this info! A friend told me about ordering on-line for Depends. I need to check this out!! Thank you!
Very grateful and thankful for everyone praying for Sarah and the kind and encouraging words.
What a great story! It struck me as I was envisioning your checkout encounter… (I had to buy them for my mom. Who was SMALLER than me and I was just positive that someone in line behind me would say, “You know those aren’t going to fit you, right?”) …that most people are so self-consumed, they won’t notice at all, but standing in that Depends aisle, just moments before the buckets of grace arrive, the spotlight from the enemy tells us lies about who we are and what we are doing. WELL DONE! Humor is my favorite weapon against these lies!
Oh Jill, you are so funny…..this was great! Love, Mom
Oh Jill. You have the best sense of humor. And I could relate on some level. I used to buy Poise and Depends for my Grandma all the time. It could be so embarrassing but then it became a challenge – to find the best deal or coupon. One time I had 4 packs in my cart at Walgreens!! I received many odd looks. LOL. Letting go of what others think can be hard but as you said, He gives us strength (and you are one of His most beloved).
We all struggle with “pride” issues….thanks for giving us humor and perspective the way you and God do.
Beautifully written, thank you for sharing your lessons with all of us so we can pray but also grow ourselves:)
Hi Jill and David,
Thank you. This is one of those vignettes out of life that make your writing so interesting.
Roger and Andrea
Made me want to burst out singing one of the many “grace” songs. Lucky you. I didn’t. Continuing to pray for grace for the Gs. 🙂
Jill, your honesty and authenticity ROCK! Thank you for this blog.
This is the best description of humility and the gift of grace (“God gives grace to the humble) that I have ever heard. Thank you, Jill! God continues to use you to bless and teach me!
Jill, there is truly a sweet softness in your soul and we have all been witness to it and been blessed by it. We have all had times of embarrassment and you are so right – we can be rigid and prideful and not let those experiences change us or we can allow God to do a beautiful work through us. Thank you for the very funny (seriously, laughing so hard there were tears!) but such insightful way of reminding us all about this important path to Grace. You are amazing!